Mask

I couldn't believe it that I watched an hour long talkshow of an Indonesian artist.. I rarely watch television program, but I just watched talkshow which is more likely to be called a gossip program rather than talkshow.. Phew~ No, it's not about the talkshow, the artist, nor my one hour precious wasted time, but the message behind it all.. but I need to tell you a bit about the topic of the talkshow, this artist is a young woman, she is married, she has kids, unfortunately she has problems in her life. Sounds so usual, isn't it? She has tattoos and piercings almost all over her body. When you read the sentence preceded this sentence, what thing came up on your mind? It's normal that it's her choice, it's part of art, it's so common. Good for you then who think that way. I'm gonna talk about those who don't think that way. Unfortunately, the culture in Indonesia is not that "open" to things like these. Hmm I think the word unfortunately doesn't fit it well, I appreciate my country's culture, it's just about back again to perspective. Well well, this subject confessed that she is being judged because she has tattoos, she has piercings, she drinks, she's going out, she's having fun. Oh my dear. When you judge someone based on the surface, you know nothing beneath all of the things the subject chose to show you. Remember the iceberg theory? It may look small so you can underestimate it from what it seems, you know nothing about what supports it under. Iceberg could sink up the majestic Titanic on its very first voyage. When someone decide to have tattoos for example, what's so wrong about it that couldn't even harm you? It's just their way to hide, to release what they hold this long. You know nothing what they've been through, don't make it worse by judging them, you are not any better than them.

My mom, she has tattoos, she has piercings, I did judge her at the very first time, then I realized, I know what she's been through, it's not easy for her to do that as well. She needs attention. Not judgement. Me myself, not any better than her, I do drink, i'm not proud of it nor regret it. It's the way i'm having fun, what's so wrong about having fun as long as you know your limit, isn't it?

All of us we have our own problems, there are people who choose to stay calm, there are people who choose to go out looking for friends so he/she can forget his problems. We have choices! We are responsible enough for our own choices, we don't need judgement but support.

once again, judging people based on what they choose to show you is just like when you believe that poop taste bad but in fact you've never tried to taste it. It doesn't make you any better. Be open. Be brave enough to accept people for what they are. Or atleast, don't make their problems worsen by judging them. You don't judge, then no one will judge you. Remember that karma does exist ;)