Today's Proverb

" If you want something you've never had, then you've got to do something you've never done."

Mask

I couldn't believe it that I watched an hour long talkshow of an Indonesian artist.. I rarely watch television program, but I just watched talkshow which is more likely to be called a gossip program rather than talkshow.. Phew~ No, it's not about the talkshow, the artist, nor my one hour precious wasted time, but the message behind it all.. but I need to tell you a bit about the topic of the talkshow, this artist is a young woman, she is married, she has kids, unfortunately she has problems in her life. Sounds so usual, isn't it? She has tattoos and piercings almost all over her body. When you read the sentence preceded this sentence, what thing came up on your mind? It's normal that it's her choice, it's part of art, it's so common. Good for you then who think that way. I'm gonna talk about those who don't think that way. Unfortunately, the culture in Indonesia is not that "open" to things like these. Hmm I think the word unfortunately doesn't fit it well, I appreciate my country's culture, it's just about back again to perspective. Well well, this subject confessed that she is being judged because she has tattoos, she has piercings, she drinks, she's going out, she's having fun. Oh my dear. When you judge someone based on the surface, you know nothing beneath all of the things the subject chose to show you. Remember the iceberg theory? It may look small so you can underestimate it from what it seems, you know nothing about what supports it under. Iceberg could sink up the majestic Titanic on its very first voyage. When someone decide to have tattoos for example, what's so wrong about it that couldn't even harm you? It's just their way to hide, to release what they hold this long. You know nothing what they've been through, don't make it worse by judging them, you are not any better than them.

My mom, she has tattoos, she has piercings, I did judge her at the very first time, then I realized, I know what she's been through, it's not easy for her to do that as well. She needs attention. Not judgement. Me myself, not any better than her, I do drink, i'm not proud of it nor regret it. It's the way i'm having fun, what's so wrong about having fun as long as you know your limit, isn't it?

All of us we have our own problems, there are people who choose to stay calm, there are people who choose to go out looking for friends so he/she can forget his problems. We have choices! We are responsible enough for our own choices, we don't need judgement but support.

once again, judging people based on what they choose to show you is just like when you believe that poop taste bad but in fact you've never tried to taste it. It doesn't make you any better. Be open. Be brave enough to accept people for what they are. Or atleast, don't make their problems worsen by judging them. You don't judge, then no one will judge you. Remember that karma does exist ;)

Perspectives

"If it doesn't do you any good, why holding on? Move on!" Uhuh I was writing my blog assignment on my other blog just now, no it's not that I betray you bloggie "sometimes things are not like what it seems." you understand right? hahaha well nah it is just an academic blog made by my university for each of its students, I just write there sometimes (if i have assignment that i have to post there :)))) so don't you worry bloggie, I will still and always be faithful with you, it's been 4years and more since the first time I made you. Uhuuu i'm so easy to get distracted hahaha so back to what i wanted to write, that first quote I wrote in this post, I found it as the header of my academic blog. I barely remember why at that time I put that as the header on my academic blog, it should be sound more academic than it is since it's an academic blog, ay? such as "don't look back at history since it would do you harm." perhaps? hahaha ewww it sounds so cheesy anyway. So so so back again to the topic. It's just give me an "injection" to write tonight. You know what, when you are saying some motivational words, it is not as easy as when you say it, you know what i mean? The point that I want to say for this post is that more likely to don't judge people easily from what they do or say. I take my case for the example, I wrote that motivational sentence as the header of my blog, it doesn't mean that I am successfully moved on, yet me myself is sometimes still struggling on forgetting someone or not to overthink about such unimportant things that do not do me any good at all, I am a human, she is a human, he is a human, they are human, we are all human. Nobody's perfect. We made mistakes. When we talk about mistakes itself, we cannot easily judge that a mistake is always bad, not every beautiful thing for example is good, right? Banana for example, I loooove it so much, for me that's like a splat from heaven, but there must be someone at the other hand hate it as it is slimy and textured like baby's food for example. See, it's all just about perspective. Try to judge as objective as possible. because at the end it's not the mistake that matters but the way he/she admit the mistake he/she made and how can he/she learns from the mistakes he/she has made. Our task is to help them to get better.
It relates me to the newest issue happened in Indonesia, about a just-graduated-from-high-school-young-girl who acted brutally against a police officer, I mean I don't know how did she act, but according to the news that I read, it says that she did it brutally. So sorry if i make mistake in re-telling this story. She just lost his father after the incident because a lot of people bullied her through social media for what she has done. His father got a sudden heart attack when he read the critics over her daughter that lead him to death. See, now who's the villain? The girl who acted brutal or you guys that bullied her until she lost her father? You just killed someone. According to Aristotle's theory about Eudemonism ethic, think twice before you do something, whether it will bring you any good or bad.

Wasteful Attempt

Ali bin Abi Thalib once said "No need to explain to people about yourself, because those who like you don't need that and those who hate you won't believe that."

Well, it's enough that you know yourself.

Be Independent

I got a slap on my face today. Well not as literally a slap but you know. You know what, don't you ever rely on someone. First, because the only one you can rely on is only yourself. Second, when the person you tought you can rely on doesn't actually can be counted on, you'll get disappointed. Be Independent lah, the Malay said with their accent.

Really, i'm telling you the truth! Learn to live alone, it is less drama. You still need to socialize but don't ever put your comfort zone on them, because they can sometimes take it away without any prior notifications and without even they realize.